Choose a Time-In opposed to a Time-Out.
Time-in versus Time-out
What is a time-in and how is it different from a time-out?
Time-in is exactly as the name suggests. It teaches people and children to go inwards. It is teaching your child emotional and social skills, and how to regulate their emotions, thoughts and actions through coregulation. In other words, you are going through the process WITH your child. It is not something you are doing to your child.
Time-in promotes mentally healthy children!
What does time-out tell your child?
Time-out is a punishment, something you are doing to your child. It gives your child the following message:
“You are being bad, you are bad, and because of that I am going to remove my attention and love from you.”
Behaviour / Rewards Charts are also not recommended, as they may work for cooperative children in the short term, but research shows that they are in fact not beneficial in the long term. Read more about Reward Charts and what you can do instead here.
Remember: Misbehaviour is an unmet need! Meet your child's need by helping them through their emotions as opposed to cutting them off by means of isolation.
The Time-In Toolkit (EQ Pack):
The Time-in Toolkit concept is simple: Children have a section they can call "My Calming Corner". The time-in method allows your child the opportunity to work through their emotions and reflect through means of coregulation.
The EQ Pack includes:
The 4 basic emotions
Emotions Vocabulary Sheet: Bringing awareness of emotions
What Am I Feeling? Figuring out your feeling to decode your child's behaviour
48 Calming Strategies
List of ideas to include in your calming basket
How To Implement Your Calming Space at Home
The Nanny Knows Calming Corner
WANT TO DIVE IN FURTHER?
Book the 6-week Positive Discipline and Parenting Workshop OR join in any one of the workshops run over the 6 week period. Topics include:
Decoding A Child's Behaviour
Parenting/Caregiving Tools and Strategies
Empowered Parents/Caregivers and Children